Sexual Objectification Series
I am in love with these Sociological Images posts about Sexual Objectification. As a feminist, sexual objectification seems so obvious that it’s the least of my worries, when really, it’s responsible for my most persistent, subconscious worries.
I’ve picked out a few of my favorite points and tips that the author, Caroline Heldman, provides. These are probably my favorites because they speak to me and my insecurities the most. Take a look at the series, particularly part 3 “Daily Rituals to Stop” and part 4 “Daily Rituals to Start” and let me know which ones meant the most to you. I think they are all so valuable.
Another healthy daily ritual that reinforces the idea that we don’t exist to be pleasing to others is to purposefully do at least one action that violates “ladylike” social norms.
4) Actively forgive yourself.
A lifetime of body hatred and self-objectification is difficult to let go of, and if you find yourself falling into old habits of playing self-hating tapes, seeking male attention, or beating yourself up for not being pleasing, forgive yourself. It’s impossible to fully transcend the beauty culture game since it’s so pervasive. It’s a constant struggle. When we fall into old traps, it’s important to recognize that, but quickly move on through self forgiveness. We need all the cognitive space we can get for the next beauty culture assault on our mental health.
And my favorite fun activity:
When you see a woman who triggers competitiveness, practice active love instead. Smile at her. Go out of your way to talk to her. Do whatever you can to dispel the notion that female competition is the natural order. If you see a woman who appears to embrace the male attention game, instead of judging her, recognize the pressure that produces this and go out of your way to accept and love her.